All that is there for you has an origin from the way you think or other people, or God or the devil, but we are somehow in control. Dr. Myers says, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. I strongly agree with this statement because the way we feel and behave stems from our thinking. How you view your marriage and manage conflicts in your marriage will also depend on your spiritual and mental frameworks. But at a higher level, everything originates from the spiritual world – positive or negative. The beginning of the year is a good time to assess yourself on different things. Perhaps, you can assess your conflict management styles and I will guide you in this article on how you can do it. We will look at five conflict management styles: accommodating, avoiding, collaborating, competing, and compromising by Thomas, K.W., and R.H. Kilmann.